Conflicted if i should end things or not.
Hi everyone.
So I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, we were eachothers first partners.
We’ve had a very happy relationship but for the past few months I’ve been noticing that i dont really wanna see him anymore, don't wanna have sleepovers, don't want to spend as much time with him and when we do spend time together i often get bored and sometimes even wanna go home. I have also not been enjoying our sex either, and for the past few months i have not been in the mood to do it anymore which gets him a bit frustrated.
He has such an immense love for me, and he has even thought of getting an engagement soon but for me, i feel like i am not returning the same amount of love back.
i still often have thoughts on how it would be to be with other men and experience different things. I also often fantasize of being with a man that has quality’s i like which my boyfriend does not have. In fact i have even started to flirt more often with men around me then i have when we were at the peak of our relationship.
Overall i am just very conflicted because i know i have lost a lot of feelings towards him but at the same time i don't know if i have the strength to break up with him.
I just feel like if i was really in love with him, i would do anything and everything for him… but the thing is that i still love him and he is incredibly special to me but Im not sure what to do.
Any help would be appreciated.
Thank you for reading this :)
In my opinion, This seems like a situation where you are holding on too tight. Your numbing your hand in all this mess not realizing that your squeezing a knife and your just doing all of this unnecessary bleeding. It’s not right to him or you when you are with someone you no longer want to be with. Just express to him that you are not feeling “us” anymore. Let him know that it’s nothing that he has done or something he can help. That it’s not his fault you have lost interest in him and try to find someone else that makes you happier. You could write a letter even. Hope that helps