He loves me so I love him?
I've been struggling to tell my boyfriend that I love him. If he never told me he loved me I would've been so uneasy and I'm happy he told me, but I'm still uneasy because idk if I can say the same. I think I love him. But maybe it's because he loves me and shows so much care. But when I scratch off how he acts towards me. Him as an individual person, I don't think I like it. I'm unsure. Sometimes I think about moving in together. Sometimes I think of if we have children together. And those ideas seem like nice dreams to me when I first think of it. But scratch the surface a bit and I see the flaws, everything that I'd hate about it because of our differences in values and way of life. I hate when our dates end. I tell him everytime that I don't like when we part and I honestly feel that way. But I don't know if it's because I don't want to go home or if I just really want to be with him, or If I just don't want to be alone. He's been patiently waiting for months for an answer and I've been trying to pinpoint my feelings for him all the while through. Maybe I'm just afraid of love, or committing to saying that I love him? I already show him that I love him in the little things. But he expresses it so much it sometimes feels like it outweighs my love.
hi, @mayflowersDesire, thank you for posting this <3
i want you to know that this isn't unusual. there's nothing wrong with you, okay? we work in weird ways unfortunately. i have a theory if someone were to show us enough love & affection we'd be enamoured with them because that's basic human nature. to be wanted. i want you to think to yourself, and answer this question. if he were to stop doing everything he's doing at the moment & do it to someone else, another girl, another person. how would you feel? would you care?