I love my boyfriend but he is making it so hard for me
My boyfriend is so dramatic , over protective , jealous from probably everything , he changes every situation into a useless shallow conversation like asking about boys , talking about how I dress , being mad that I didn’t reply fast . When I tell him his flaws he keeps whining about “always being wrong” , why I always just see his flaws , why everybody doesn’t appreciate what he does . Sometimes he keeps screaming and shouting madly that I start crying and not knowing what to say to calm him down . I feel like he just gives me negative energy all the time he doesn’t enjoy the moment he must find something bad to ruin the whole thing . I am a person who likes positivity and always willing to be better and not to make problems but being with him is making it so difficult. But despite all of that I really deeply love him and I gave him a lot of chances and I want to give him more because he has other good things too . I’m wondering shall I step back and stop this relation or shall I keep trying ? By the way after every fight he keeps saying that he’s sorry and that he knows he’s wrong and I’ll try to change i love you don’t leave me and stuff like that ..
hello there. first i’m sorry for what you’re going through, it must not be easy at all. this kind of relationship that you have with him can, with time, become a toxic one and i mean all the signs are already there. especially if he behaves the way he behaves repeatedly, if he says that he knows he is wrong but still don’t show an ounce of positive change. if you don’t notice him trying his best to make this relationship more enjoyable and positive for you, it might means that he won’t change any time soon. i won’t tell you what to do but you have to think about your well-being first.
I won’t be selfish then ? If I chose my comfort and inner peace over him ? By the way he really loves me but he just can’t balance between loving me and controlling me ( like telling me what to wear and who to talk to ) and his parents are lowering his self esteem continuously so maybe he’s showing that on me ..
