Insecurities in our relationship please help
This is my first post so I’m new to this but I need help. So I tend to be quite a social butterfly but my boyfriend is not he’s a very like able person and very agreeable but he doesn’t socialize very often other than with like two of his friends. He and I have been together for a year and a half and I really love him. Recently he’s opened up to me about his insecurities and how they’re starting to control his life. He’s very insecure about himself and that I’m going to leave him and he gets really insecure when I talk to other guys and go out to parties. He gets really intrusive thoughts about how much better I could do and that I’m going to leave him and he feels helpless when it comes to how to overcoming these thoughts and I feel terrible because I don’t know how to help. So please give me some tips or help in anyway possible
first of all, this is not your problem but his. thats why they say that before loving someone you should love yourself first. that just means he's not ready to be in a relationship at all. i don't think you're able to change much about him.
I definitely think evvadust has some points here and low self esteem does point to being a little under equipped. It's certainly is something your boyfriend will want to spearhead but if you want, you could encourage him to take actions that will improve self esteem, including professional help if necessary. Learning that a supporting partner during low periods are actually Gods...
