Issue
Hi, I am currently struggling with not feeling like I'm enough In my relationship. We've been together for 8 months and we're together 24/7 and we have the greatest times together, he's always there for me and helps me with whatever I need as I do the same for him. We make future plans together & all of that but he still is talking to another girl who he dated 4 years ago for a 1 year they just started talking again 1 month ago and she writes him everyday, throughout the day and sometimes he will go in the other room to reply to her and it is making me feel sick to my stomach and my mind is racing because I don't understand why he's with me 24/7 but still reaches out to her
May I ask if you have spoken to your partner about this?
I don't blame you for feeling uncomfortable with this as I would too. Have a think of your boundaries and standards that you wish to have in your relationship and be true to yourself on them as this is your foundation for a good relationship to be built on. If he makes you feel you are not enough that is not a nurturing, loving relationship. You have the choice and power to choose what you need and not to rely on someone else to make you feel happy. You will probably have to brave and ask him about this lady and for you be introduced to her as she is just a good friend. If he does not do that then I would take that as a red flag and think hard about your relationship. I'm not against friends of the opposite sex but there are boundaries that need to be respected. especially if they are exes. Does she know about you? If she does then she should respect your relationship, if she doesn't then he is in the wrong for keeping you both in the dark. As I said be brave, ask him, give him the chance to prove otherwise. Good luck.
