I told her lets stop talking. Maybe we can talk again when she’s ready
I met this girl through a party and i was interested in her. We ended up kissing and eventually i dmed her. We went on two dates and everything went rlly well but right after the day after the second date she kinda just shut off and said she didnt really wanted to talk to anybody for now. Seeing how depressed she was, I just wanted to do something about it like getting her her favourite food and leaving her alone but it kinda backfired. I didnt talk to her until a week later and she told me last week was chaotic thats why she was quite distant too. She said im a great guy & its hard to see me as a friend, sorry if she led me on but she’s not ready to date or get into a rs cause she just broke up and she has alot on her plate & she doesnt want to put these burden on anybody else. She doesnt want to turn me into a rebound. Fast forward i met her to collect some stuff of mine and it was pretty okay, i acted like a friend and did not do anything “funny”. Things kinda went back to normal and she hinted that we could still go out alone as friends unless i dont want to. Right after that she was kinda cold again like her replies took 2-5days for the next 10over days. Eventually i felt like im the only one sounding excited to text her so i deleted whatever enthusiastic messages i sent her that were not read yet. I simply told her no worries when she apologised for the late response. Days later she initiated and asked me hows life. i told her im fine and i dont mean any disrespect but lets stop talking for now altho i enjoy texting her. Maybe lets talk again when you’re ready to :). She left me on read. She also stopped viewing my ig story ever since. Its been about two weeks. Im not sure if i should initiate and check with her on how is she doing or just let it be. Any advice on what i should do? Girls, maybe i did something wrong but any idea what she’s thinking? Should i just move on or make a last attempt to reconnect with her?
@lavenderKitten7312 Hey. It sounds like she told you pretty directly that she's not ready to date right now, but is okay with hanging out as friends. I definitely get how it might be hard to hang out with her as a friend. That's ultimately up to you if you decide you can handle being friends or not. She gave you a pretty clear no though, so if having a relationship soon is something you want, definitely try somebody else.