Looking to talk about emotionally immature men
Hi, I’m a 33F, I’m hurting a lot because of men that act immature after an intimate relationship. Casual hook up is fine but I’d like to understand why it’s so hard for some men to stay friendly and considerate after. I think this is a lack of maturity. They act with fear. And I would like to discuss what’s the best way to discuss with immature men without creating conflict.
i have heard, you have to help them put words on their feeling, or like you only gain maturity through suffering. What do you think?
@carefulMango7225
I'm sorry that your connections with men have caused you so much hurt. Yes, it's quite likely that your current connections might be immature men, or maybe just not interested in the kind of friendship or consideration you're looking for. Or as you said, maybe even fearful of keeping contact after, for whatever reasons.
I'm not sure that it would be appropriate to insist on friendship or force contact with someone who doesn't want it.
Perhaps the expectations they have from their time with you are so different to yours and that's causing you much hurt.
I hope you are able to find the connections that suit your needs better and able to bring you the friendly consideration you like.
Much strength to you.
