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Mixed feelings

User Profile: Daydreamer47
Daydreamer47 November 22nd, 2021

Hey,

I posted before about the same guy I have been seeing recently. We've been on about 5-6 dates I think. Yesterday I asked to check in on how he is feeling/where we are at. He said that he does not feel ready for a committed relationship. He shared with me that he has not had a relationship before and has not been with a lot of women. This was really hard for me to hear, but I also asked to clarify what committed means and that I'm not looking for something super serious, but did want it to be more than casual. I also told him I am fine with an open relationship, which I actually prefer to explore my own sexuality since I'm bisexual. I asked him to think about it and call me to talk about it after.

I hope I will get more clarity on things when he calls me. Maybe it is unwise, but I honestly feel like I just want to keep seeing him in what fashion that he's willing to. We both opened up to each other a lot yesterday and I felt super close to him. I told him the holidays are hard for me, and he mentioned wanting to keep me company and spend it with me. He said we could at least keep cuddling and stuff one-on-one. I also honestly felt closer to him because he shared that he was less experienced, and I like the idea of supporting him in that. He's really sweet and seems to want to be there for me. The idea of starting from scratch to find a new person for a relationship with a capital R feels like something I'm not ready for and would really need to kind of heal/rest/regroup before trying again. I don't want to let my boundaries slide, but I am honestly leaning towards feeling like it wouldn't be wrong to keep connecting with him for the time being, just knowing in the back of my mind that a more serious relationship will likely have to be with someone else.

Thanks for reading this far or skimming lol.
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