Need an advice. What should I do?
Hello everyone. I'm (f22) in relationship with a man (m32), we met at the work place, this spring he came back to his home country and we had ldr for the last 7 months.
The guy was supposed to come at the end of this month and he did, but
At first he was very enthusiastic about coming to my country and seeing me again. Of course I was very happy too. I said I'd taken a vacation for a week just to spend time with him and he reacted well (He arrived on Thursday, so the four days were supposed to be for us).
The closer the data of his flight was the less enthusiastic he looked(it's hard to tell honestly since he barely communicated with me the entire time)
I offered to meet on Thursday but he said he need time to unpack his things, move into his flat here and rest after everything(even though his flight lasted only 2,5 hours, it's not his first or even second time here and he came here at 9:30 am but well) so I agreed. The day has come. He's here. He wrote me he's already at his place unpacking his stuff. In the afternoon he wrote he's super tired and gonna sleep. I asked him if he wanted to meet on Friday and he answered me "I've already told you I need some time to unpack my things, regulate some things and rest. I just said "okay, then write me when you have time". Since then I had NO answer. I wrote him on the next day something like "Hey, how are you doing, what do you think about me coming to you today so we can spend time together". He didn't answer me for the whole day until evening, he just wrote "Yeah, we can go to eat somewhere in the evening" and nothing more. It didn't sound like he really wanted to see me after 7 months of ldr without any video calls after first 2 months. More like "Well, I don't mind". I was so disappointed, but I thought he'll write something more.
On the next day (aka today) I became his message where he asks at what time I'll come and then added something really weird: "You must tell me in advance if you want to come today. And since we meet in the evening, you have to sleep at my place since there's no bus at night" although it shouldn't be a problem?? I already was at his place and to be honest I didn't imagined that some other way around, because after so much time I wanted to spend literally days and nights together. Did he just want to go eat and that's about it???
That's all he wrote. I just deliberately ignored him and didn't meet with him reading his messages but not answering. I know it's immature but I feel so heartbroken. What's happened with him? Or was I blind this entire time even though he said he thinks about me, he misses me so much but now he doesn't do anything.
@easyTangerine586
I don't want to criticize your boyfriend. He probably has his own reasons for acting that way. The only thing I'd like to say is that your behavior doesn't seem immature. It's normal to expect certain things from someone who seems reliable. If he didn't do something or acted strangely, that's his choice. But you can do what’s within your control. And you did. You ignored him. Yes, there were different ways to go about it. But the point is that he might not be that interested in being around you right now. Because it’s harder than keeping someone at a distance. The age difference alone doesn’t explain these things. But it’s just as likely that he might think it’s okay to treat you that way. And that’s why you have the right to do what you think is right. You deserve respect. That’s a fact. Just a fact.
