Need some help with this
So I have been having some problems with my bf recently. He is constantly doing things and he has little time to spend with me anymore. He doesn't talk as much as he used to with me. He never calls me first, he leaves me on delivered for quite some time, and he will never ask for us to hang out first. he has been travelling a lot recently and hasn't been talking that much. I put so much into the relationship and it's draining me to continue to try and put this much into the relationship when it isn't being reciprocated. What should I do?? (also I will leave more details in the comments if requested)
@loves071523
I would get with him and tell him how you feel. His reaction should let you know a lot.
Otherwise you might want to let him set the pace and not be the only one putting in the effort. If he quits contacting or making an effort you will see the truth. There is something called a "slow fade" that many people do instead of breaking up because they think it's less painful to the other and it avoids confrontation. Quite often when people force the conversation about the changes in the relationship, is have the confrontation, they get ghosted.
It sounds like the energy has changed in the relationship. You have a right to know where you stand and to not be drug along. I hope you get the clarity you need to proceed forward in a healthy way
@loves071523 I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. A relationship should not be one-sided. If you’re the only one putting in effort, it’s understandable to feel drained. If nothing changes, you deserve someone who prioritizes you the way you do them. Your energy and love should be mutual. 💙
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Have you tried discussing any of this with him? Letting him know that you feel like the relationship is one sided might help him put his behavior into perspective. Has anything major happened recently that could have pull away?
