One sided distance
What should I do when I feel like my relationship with my bf is on edge but he thinks everything’s fine? I feel I don’t get enough attention and love and he spends so much time playing video games with his friends. I feel like I’ve lost my special
connection with him. I don’t know what to do I don’t want to break up. Every time I talk about this he somehow makes it my fault and makes me feel guilty for shaming and being so insecure. I always end up crying and starting a fight.
@PumpkinSpiceLatteLover
Hello, PumpkinSpiceLatteLove :)
Thank you for sharing your story with us!
This is definitely not an ideal situation. It takes two to be in a relationship, and it definitely hurts when the bad outweighs the good and when the feelings seem one-sided.
From what it sounds like, it is especially hard as your partner seems unresponsive to your pleads and talks as well.
I don't know your whole situation, so I cannot guarantee that my advice will work out for you.
That said, I think I would consider two ways to approach this.
1st - maybe go out somewhere on a neutral ground? Away for the weekend, picnic or some other event which would give just give the two of you some time to reconnect & see how that works out for both of you.
2nd - think about what you expect of a relationship and his role. Can he fulfil the role you expect him to in a year or two? Do you think things will change for the better? Do you think that in the long run you would be happier alone than with him? What will make you happy?
It is okay and good to fight for those we love. It is also okay to grow apart when things aren't working out. Ultimately, this is a decision you have to make for yourself. My advice would be to choose the course of action that will make you happy in the long run.