Please Help
I’m going out with this guy and he’s so great. He’s attractive, has great qualities, is such a gentleman overall. I really like him. However, last night in the bedroom, I just wasn’t myself. As a person, I usually have a very high libido and I’m very enthusiastic about sex. But I don’t know what’s going on. I like this guy but I kept trying to rush the sex and while we were doing it, I wasn’t mentally there 100%….what do I do?!! Is something wrong with me?
@pioneeringSea2738 I think that's a totally normal thing and it likely happens to almost anybody.
Imagine you're an excellent pianist. You're having an off day and you just completely mess up playing your favorite piece. Does that mean you're terrible at piano? You'll never get better? You'll never enjoy playing piano again? Of course not! Things in the bedroom don't have to be any different.
I personally find that in situations like these, anxiety is my biggest obstacle, and nothing feeds anxiety like ruminating and putting yourself down. I believe in you and I know can have a better time next time!
Thank you for this!! It made me feel so much better.