Retroactive jealousy
Hi I’ve been in a relationship with my current gf for about a year now and have been having a hard time letting go of some stories she told me about her wild college days. She reassures it’s in the past and that she loves me and doesn’t care about the past. I do see a future with her especially if I can let this go. It’s gotten so bad I feel like it’s even affecting our sex life . What are some tips or things I can do to let this go?
@franz77 Why do you think it bothers you so much? It sounds like working on your own self- esteem and self-love are important. Maybe write down three things you find attractive about yourself. So she experimented in the past for herself to explore things...she is choosing to be with you now. If you are worried about needing to "spice things up" you can talk with her about what you both want to explore, but don't compare yourself to others.
