Why not me?
Hey I'm new to this, but it's been rough. I'm 21, and unfortunately never had any sort of relationship, not that I havent tried. I've gotten incredibly close to people, only to realise they were using me, didnt see me the same way or wanted attention. Within the past month I've had a friend get engaged 2 more close friends are going on a date together, a third has started seeing a guy, and I have been rejected once again by someone I though I genuinely had a shot with. I'm tired. Tired of people saying they wanna set me up and finding no one. Tired of being told that girls will regret passing up on me in a decade. I just wanna know what the heck I'm doing wrong. Why cant I find my person. Why doesnt anyone wanna love me. Or be close to me. What is wrong with me that I cant see??? I keep trying to figure it out and grow and change but I just get no where. It's like I'm just stuck being alone and idk how to fix it
Take a deep breath. I felt that way all through high school. Like I wasn’t ugly I was pretty and had my own style. So I was like wtf is going on! I was always alone no one asked me out. Never went to a dance never got roses on valentines at school. After school come to find out a lot of guys thought I was hot. But they said they were nervous asking me out. Over all I got over it when I stopped actually caring about finding someone to date. That way I knew I was compatible with a spouse. You want someone who is cool with you being you. Like a spouse that if you had to poo and wanted to talk they would be on the tub like whats up. Just be yourself and make friends don’t worry about anything and soon a girl will be like hell yeah!
@Jack307
Forget what well wishers say. They are not in your shoes and have NO clue what could be causing your lack of success in dating.
The sad truth is, we live in times now where almost everyone makes first impressions of you within 30 seconds.
The only thing you can do is toughen up so you can withstand the mass spamming process of trying to find that needle in a haystack, a good person that actually cares about you for YOU and accepts you the way you are.
In short, be prepared for lots of rejections. It's par for the course.
Or you can just give up and be alone forever due to lack of trying. Trust me, this way.......sucks.