How do you make friendships?
I'm 25 right now and have zero friends. I've had no friends for about 4 years now. Every time I leave the house I get either ridiculed or ignored. I've tried going to places that suggest other people with similar interests as me would be there, but even there I'm unwanted and barely tolerated. I'm convinced it's some combination of my hideous visage, my personality (or lack thereof), and/or autism. Is it possible to make friends despite me being ugly, fat, boring, socially awkward, autistic, and having a bad/no personality?
@TheRealJakeD thank you for sharing this. Of course, it is possible to make friends! Did you maybe try to make friends online? :)
@healingWhisper I have tried. They always leave, most of the time within minutes. Probably because I'm boring and intolerable
@TheRealJakeD oh how come that you are feeling boring and intolerable?
@healingWhisper Either they say so or I come to that conclusion because I suck at talking and never know what to talk about
@TheRealJakeD oh that is really rude to tell somebody that they are boring.
@TheRealJakeD
Hello. You can talk here at 7Cups as much as you want. There are always listeners for you. If you have a bad experience with one person you can get another one. You are special.
@Helgafy It's not really on here. Honestly I feel like people are only nice here because they're forced to be. It's how people are in real life around me. I'm never enough
@TheRealJakeD
Dear. You are enough. We all are enough. People here are not forced to be nice dear. Why being here by force? I care for you for free. No one like you!
@Helgafy If I was enough I'd have friends and possibly have had at least one relationship by now. I'm 25 now and have never had anyone. I'm a failure
@TheRealJakeD
You are not a failure dear. Life is hard and has been VERY hard to you. Stay at 7Cups and write. You are so worthy all the love you can get from people here (and elsewhere). Pressing on. You told above about your body. I saw a film "School of rock" with Jack Black. He was not slim in the movie, but I simply loved him.
@TheRealJakeD i get that feeling too, it sucks. But dont feel down because of it. I feel friendship is important to me, and i dont need many. 1 or 2 best friends who really knows you is better than hundreds of friends who are just faking it. So take ur time to find them, it may take years, but stay true to yourself. (:
@persistentKiwi1723 But I have no friends. Nobody can tolerate being around me. Everyone else my age around me is married and has a good support system (friends, family, etc). While if it wasn't for my mom right now I'd be completely alone and homeless. I'm already close to calling it a life and if there's no signs of anything changing then I will go through with it
@TheRealJakeD
dude, stay positive!! try looking around your community / get a hobby (eg. sports, music, church whatever) these social activities expands ur social circle. but you gotta be confident and take the first leap. maybe start from your own interest, ask yourself what are you interested in doing. (:
@persistentKiwi1723 Nothing interests me anymore. Everything feels hopeless
@TheRealJakeD
Hi.
You are writing that everone have a good supportsystem (friends, family). So - what do you know about them. Maybe there is not only sunshine in their lives - families, relations. Your mother means a lot and is importent to you so you are not alone or homeless (as you are writing). I hope you show her that you appreciate her efforts for you and help her in the house by cooking, taking out the trash, washing the floors so she can have some good times - and that you also give har thanks for all that she is and is doing for you.