Stuck
We're something between friends and acquaintances, even though I have deeper feelings. We've known each other for about 10 years. We used to be closer but not exactly best friends. It's been inconsistent for years or more specifically he's inconsistent. I don't think he doesn't care about me at all cause who keeps talking to someone for this long if doesn't care? Dynamic of our friendship is ... let's say texting once a month and hanging out once a year. We recently talked, even talked about meeting up, but it didn't happen. The problem is we always say "yeah we should totally go, it'd be great" but we never schedule specific day and time. Also, we're both quite reserved, shy, introverted, so I guess none of us likes to make the first move.
@optimisticField9745 give it more time maybe I had a best friend in college but I no longer talk to her due to a falling out but I know she isn't coming back in my life I am better off.
@sallymae3459
Give more time for what? I'm not sure how your experience is related to what I wrote here.
Hey, So, first of all, are you clear about what you want? I mean, do you see him as a friend, or more than a friend? As a best friend? What are you really worried about?
@raspberryLemon5565
Well for starts, I want to spend more time together and to communicate more often, to keep in touch on regular basis. I do have feelings for him but I don't necesarily want to pursue a relationship, at least not right now. I think I want us to be more included in each other's lives and then to see if it would be worth sacrificing for a relationship.
@optimisticfield9745 Okay... so, did he ever talk anything about his feelings with you? Either ways, you are clear that you want to be friends with him and know more about him. I say, let it go slow, understand him more. Once you get your clarity, and have stronger feelings, you will know what to do. I suggest, that would be the time to not be shy or introverted. Just be confident enough to go for what you want.