Yeah Okay Let’s Start Off Here
I have this friend. She’s a really good friend. But awhile back, from August of 2020 to January of 2021, I couldn’t handle being her friend. I won’t disclose why, but it’s not a reason you’re guessing. Seeing her icon made me sick with guilt, and being there for her made me sick some nights.
I eventually got over this, and it hasn’t burdened me as much now, she never found out about it, but recently- I’ve been helping her out with things and the feeling’s come back and morphed into being angry every word she says.
And I can’t tell her about this, she’s in a tough enough spot as it is, why would I do that.
I just need to know how to stop.
Sounds like there is some deep value or boundaries you have that she is violating- not on purpose obviously! I say you talk to her about it, you obviously want the best for her and from her - we all want to be our best selves and we want our friends to be their best selves - you can come at it from a loving angle, be loving and vulnerable, our friends are there for us and together we can work through hard conversations.