always left out
I have a group of friends that I was really close to last year. we are still close, but lately I have been feeling kinda left out and realizing that I probably aren't as important as everyone else who is in the group. two of them have a lot of inside jokes and that isn't what I have a problem with, I'm happy they are super close. it's just they always say them in front of me and kinda tend to ignore me or leave me out of conversations and it kinda hurts. I don't want to come off as jealous or self centered. it's also just, if I'm gone for a while or randomly disappear no one really notices or asks if I'm okay, they honestly don't know what I'm going through and that's my fault. but it isn't the first time I have felt not important or left out from them. I just stay because I don't want to hurt anyone, but I know that they would be better off without me and probably won't notice if I was gone. I just don't know how to deal with this situation
@smolstrawberries hey girl i was in the same situation for literally 2.5 years, and i felt the same as u but i think you should either talk to them or leave. try to focus what they do not what they say , people can call you their best friend but still talk shit abt u behind your back. believe me , i was also ignored all the time , but i never left cause i loved them . i thought maybe its my mistake thts why they treat me like this and i spent hours crying and thinking abt it , but they never changed . and when i asked them the reason for treating me like shit they said there was no reason or i dont remeber why i did it.
they started apologizing as soon as i left. listen, i know it will hurt but u have to try your mental health is more important than anything, if they are okay with losing you they never wanted you. if they are okay with your absence they never valued your presence. if they do not see your worth it doesnt mean you r not worthy , ik you r beautiful and worthy of everything. if you can sort out things then try and talk to them abt how you feel, if they are not guilty or sorry abt it....just leave
