Addiction is affecting my marriage
I have reason to believe my husband has addiction personally disorder. If he's not in his gambling phase he's binge drinking every night. If I tell him we can't afford beer I get yelled at. He has to have something in order to survive.
This is affecting my marriage. I am fed up with how I'm not more important than his alcohol or his buddy. Tonight we didn't even spend new Year's Eve together because he wanted to drink with his buddy instead. He has emotional immature and he won't get help. He needs therapy badly!
What do I do? I can't handle this anymore.
@angel202137
Hello. It is very sad to hear about your situation. It looks your husband can be addicted to both gambling and alcohol. It happens those two tend to co-exist or to exchange with each other.
How would you feel if allowing yourself to take part in some therapy? Not as a form of any "punishment", but as a New Year's gift for you...
You cannot help your partner. He has to grow up and help himself by himself first.
If you cannot afford it, or are not convinced about therapy, you may try to visit some Al-Anon meeting in the neighborhood and check how you fit there. Al-Anon is a Twelve Steps community for people in situations like yours.
And, of course, you may talk to some very supportive people here at 7 Cups, some of them probably with similar experience.