A fight with my bf
So me and my bf fight, and i know it’s normal but idk what to do…
So today he called me and he is a very jokey person but sometimes he goes to far (idk if im to sensitive)
We were calling each other names as jokes and then he went to far in my opinion and its not the first time that this type of fight happened..
He said basically “Do you got an job?)
And yes i dont have and he obviously know it, i dont have a work bcs im fresh out of highschool and he is off at work so i can spend as much time with him whenever he is available (if i get a job i wont be as flexible)
So i felt that was a bit rude idk and he knows thats why i dont have a job..
He then said after that “ do you have a license?”
And no i dont have one, im still learning and have a bit of road anxiety..
So then i said “do you have a gf?”
And he said “no i have a wife”
Then i said “then treat me like one”
And then he said here we go again, i am just going to ***
Idk what to do he tales his jokes to far and we have talked about it before..
I wanted to ask him, if he also made fun of the girls in the past but i didn’t (just to keep peace between us)
Any advice? Idk if im immature :(
@aquaIdea6185
It sounds like you’re feeling hurt and a bit confused about what’s okay and what isn’t in these “jokes.” Even if he means it playfully, it makes sense that it would sting when the jokes touch on things you’re already a little sensitive about, like work or driving. That doesn’t make you “too sensitive,” it just means those things matter to you.
It also seems frustrating that this isn’t the first time it’s happened, and even after talking about it, it keeps coming up again. That can make it feel like you’re not really being heard, which is a hard place to be in.
You’re not immature for feeling this way. You’re just reacting to something that doesn’t sit right with you, and trying to make sense of it.
Thank you
It depends on the type of relationship you have.
I am also a frank guy so I think he said that in a care way.
He cares about your life, carrer and all. I thinks it's fine.
If the tone felt like mocking you or disrespecting you then might be bad.
Otherwise it's totally fine imo
You gotta get a little mature though.
Dont get mad at such things this easily
Otherwise people will use you and your self esteem will drop
Learn to ignore these things and take criticism some times.
I hope you two sort it out
Peace:)
We are new in the relationship so yeaaa
I talked to him about it, and he said he is sorry and he was rude bcs he was tired so yea
Its all sorted out
I feel like i care to much, my emotions take over and i feel deeply every possible emotion
But thanks
Listeningyouout29 gave great advice!
So I will add a different aspect, do something to focus on yourself like take some classes to learn a skill set
These days you can watch them all online without going to collehge so try to refocus on that!
There are some Ivy League Universities like Harvard, Brown and Yale that offer free certificate courses take some of those!
Then if anyone asks”I am taking some classes at Harvard” etc
Also the only opinion that matters is the one you have of yourself, so do something to focus on YOu!
My daughter’s husband is like that with the insensitive jokes, it annoys me to no end and I tell him that too!
He even jokes with the grandbaby that way and she cries!
I had to urge him in my best PC in-law ways to stop and he finally cut back on them!
I hope someone in your life can assist you there too so he cannot say it’s just you feeling that way!
Virtual hugs!
