Anxiety of Desperation
hey guys so im in this relationship with a guy for more than 3yrs now and we are each other's first love and he has been verbally abusive during the past but changed for me had loads of ups and downs cuz v forst started off as long distance from the beginning and before that we were best friends at school so yeah he was over possessive to the point he wont let me talk to any of my guy best friends and fought hard so i respected his views and cut down night talks and meet ups with my years old best frnds altogether out of repsect for him and then he used to say sorry yet couldn't control his toxic overpossesiveness so yeah i let go of people for him and now being an introvert he was suddenly met someone on reddit when he was researching about his pg college and they became good friends which he updated through every step to me and he knows im very chill about it byt thr fact where it got worse was when i found out he and her were going to go out for lunch like i didnt like that they just met and over a month they called soemtimes and talked even at midnight so when i called him out on this issue cuz i have respected him by putting off genuine yrs old frndships he first felt really bad and said sorry and stuff then next day night he changed into something else and said i did no wrong i was loyal and said he is done trying to fix *** and that he has lost feelings in the long distance and that he is mentally drained from then on ive been begging since he begged me 5mins ago that night saying I've blocked her u mean evrything plz dont leave but 5mins after he says this he has blocked her yet he says he is done lost feelings and *** idk what to do ive been begging for a week now and crying like *** and his family is going through something really hard with a family member having cancer so he hasn't had the time or energy to fix things with me yet he has hurt me a lot and just says ill stay with u and sorry for the sake of me forcing him to not out of regret...what should i do I'm really heartbroken and numb...plz help me out
@goldenComputer8888
You should never give up friends for any relationship.
Or be told what to do.
A healthy relationship is about trust, care, and support, not possession and jealousy and not about verbal abuse.
And then for him to turn around and think he can talk to others after telling you no.
You deserve better.
It's hard to say, hard to see, but this is about control and not love 💙
thank you so much for taking time and efforts to respond back to me it just aches my heart so much that he would change so hard and totally into an unrecognizable stranger and the thing that I'm unable to accpet most of all is me trusting him and givimg him the second chances all for him to burn the bridged yet another time for me to completely get broken up and this time i just can't back up myself though I'm trying slowly...thank you so much for ur words of courage and hope it means a lot...:/