Bf wants an open relationship and I’m not sure…
Hello!
My boyfriend wants to be in an open relationship (again). We did this before and he wasn’t exactly respectful of me and he broke a lot of the boundaries we had set. We ended up closing the relationship when he hooked up with someone on his birthday because after he did it he said it didn’t make him feel good and he really just wants to be with me…but now 6 months later he’s brought up wanting to do it again and I’m just so hesitant…
anyone with any experience in this?
@reservedOcean4062
Hi there, I’ve no experience with this but can understand your concerns. To open up the relationship you’d both need to be more open with one another and be able to put boundaries in place (and work together within them). Your apprehension is valid but hopefully other members may be able to help you nagivate with this.
Thanks for reaching out.
I can hear how conflicted and hesitant you’re feeling about this, and it’s completely understandable. Opening up a relationship requires a lot of trust, communication, and mutual respect, and it sounds like the last time you tried this, those boundaries weren’t honored. That must have been really painful and disappointing for you. It’s okay to feel unsure and protective of your emotions now—it’s a big decision, and your feelings matter just as much as his. If you’re not comfortable with it, that’s valid, and it’s important to honor your own needs and boundaries. You deserve to feel safe, respected, and valued in your relationship.
