Breakup.
I’m struggling with going no contact. How can I conquer this? It’s been 6 years and he left me so suddenly. We were talking about marriage. My heart is in pieces. It’s been almost a month and I’m shattered
@quietCurrent2672
I am so sorry you are going through this. 7Cups is a good place to receive support. The shock and grieving process is different for every person, so it will take time, but you will get through this. What keeps you from your daily activities and responsibilities?
I just worry about losing him forever. He was my best friend.. I worry about him forgetting about me if I don’t reach out. I distract myself all day to try and not reach out to him but at the end of the day when my world is quiet, the urge overtakes me and I give in. I can see him pulling more and more away from me. It hurts
@quietCurrent2672
Hi ... I want to make sure I’m following your timeline correctly: you were together for 6 years, and then about a month ago, he decided to suddenly end your relationship? Is that right? How long ago did you two talk about getting married? Did it ever get to the planning stage?
@quietCurrent2672 That sounds really painful. Six years is a long time to share with someone, and going no contact feels like losing a part of yourself. How have you been coping day to day? What helps you hold on when it feels so hard?
I cry myself to sleep most nights. I broke no contact but realized I’m just being selfish and manipulative by trying to beg someone to be with me when they don’t want to. I realized if I really love him, then I need to leave him alone. It’s the most painful thing I’ve ever gone through in my life. So today is day 1.
Curious how you are doing and feeling now
We saw each other yesterday. We were silent most of the time and when we did talk it was small talk. Everything just felt so empty. And today I am so sad and down. I didn’t even make it to church today because I just didn’t have the energy for it.
I don’t really have a support system around me, just one friend, so it’s been difficult. He didn’t show any interest in rekindling anything with me and even talked about me talking to other men. It just seems like we’re done and I’m so sad about it
I'm so sorry. I hope you can still find some beauty in this day
How are you holding up? I know it’s just the beginning but that’s the worst part.. I’m sorry you’re going through this but I hope in the meantime you can find who you are without him
I just feel all over the place. Like I made the right choice but then afraid to be alone and just..sad and a little bit reckless and alone
If you feel you made the right choice, hold onto that. That will save you a lot more trouble and heartache. That’s not to say things can’t change in the future but during this season of your life, maybe you’re meant to discover yourself.