Broken
Hi everyone. I'm going through a difficult breakup right now. I was in a relationship for almost 3 years, and I still love that person very much. He recently said he doesn't want to continue the relationship, but I'm finding it very hard to accept.
I keep thinking about him and hoping he will come back. I overthink a lot, imagine different situations, and keep checking my phone to see if he has contacted me.
Because of this, I'm feeling very sad and anxious. I'm also finding it difficult to sleep, concentrate on my studies, and enjoy my daily life. My exams are going on, which makes things even harder.
I don't want to stop loving him suddenly, but I also don't want to keep hurting myself like this. I need someone to listen, understand me, and guide me on how to handle these feelings.i want him back too by understanding my feelings
@devuu123456
I understand how you feel—you’ve been in this relationship for quite a while. It’s a serious thing. But one thing worries me. Do you think you’ve just gotten used to him, or have you lost yourself in him? If it’s the latter, that’s much worse. It may seem to you that your life doesn’t exist without this person, even though in reality you’ve simply used him to fill your need for acceptance and validation. It seems he’s not going to change his mind, but you’re doing things that still tie you to him. Perhaps you could gradually start doing the opposite. Delete the photos, stop checking his phone, and think less about the things you shared. It’ll take time. But you have to respect him and his decision. And I want you to become more independent, just like he has. Good luck, and hang in there.