Broke up with a slob lol
She had amazing qualities but after living together for 3 months I realized she was a total mess.
One month into relationship I lost my house cleaner. Couldn't find a replacement so just did our best to keep small 2bdrm apt. as clean as possible. Wow what a mistake! She could live in a total dirt zone and not care. Doesn't use disinfectant when cleaning and even when sweeping the floor the job is half assed AT best.
I pay for EVERYTHING. I won't let her pay a dime for anything because that's how I was raised and also because she doesn't earn much.
She comes home from work and just stays in bed. She doesn't cool, can't clean and contributes just the basics that any partner is expected like sex, loyalty, friendship etc etc
Am I looking at this from a skewed angle or is the break up justified?
I just can't see her as a life partner much less a mom. People are best seen in their natural habitat.. I dont wanna change anyone.
@Benzi777 what you see is what you get. If they’re not motivated to contribute now, hard to see things changing any time soon. Being able to see your partner as a husband/wife/father/mother in the future is really important.