Confused and hurt
I’ve been currently arguing with my husband over a jealousy problem I have. When we get in arguments he likes to escalate the situation and use my sister against me. My sister is completely innocent in this (at least I think she is) but he would always look into her *** or hiding pictures in his hidden albums of her selfies. (These selfies are not sent to him by her) he takes them from my phone or her social media. He tells me he does this just to make me made but I’m starting to believe if he had the opportunity he would want to try to get with my sister and it’s completely hurts. My sister has been my best friend my entire life.
@Krivid67 That sounds like a pretty low tactic he is using. I would ask him if he is proud of this. Is an argument about winning the emotional battle at any cost or is it about working things out in the relationship? Is what you say to him so threatening that he feels so little that he must strike back so hard?
I bring up things and feelings that hurt me when he asks me what is wrong and no matter how I approach the conversation he gets defensive and brings up how I’m just overthinking and can’t let the past go. It escalates to much that that turns into his tactic or talking to other girls. I don’t feel like he ever physically cheated on me but definitely emotionally and it’s a really *** feeling. It’s started with juts random girls but has not turned into using my sister and I’m just at lost on what to do with him.
@Krivid67 If he asks you what is wrong he should be prepared for the answer and respond to it in a loving way even if it makes him uncomfortable. Instead it seems like he is doubling down and taunting you.
Firstly I'm so sorry that he does this everytime you are trying to be open and vulnerable with him.
My hope is that your sister has her wits about her because this is honestly so gross of him. Childish and hurtful behavior.
You deserve so much better then this, and please don't settle for anything less then that.
If your having trouble with insecurity due to his torments, please reach out to people who know you and let them know you could use some boosts of confidence.
