Don’t know what to do
I let my anger take over again and lashed out on my bf over text and that caused him to get so angry and smash his phone. We don’t rly argue but have been dating 3 years and he thinks a break up might be good for us but that would shatter both our worlds and I don’t think is productive because we want to spend our lives together. Maybe some time apart is needed but I need to find ways to control my anger and I think it’s stemming from lack of self love and eating problems, and that anger gets bottled up and thrown on him when he doesn’t deserve it. Any advice is appreciated especially how to not get so mean at him when I regret it soon after
@cassiopeia7248 i hear you, friend. anger is an emotion that can often become rather dangerous, especially when we are struggling with properly managing it.
some ways you could help yourself with better managing it is through journaling, as it can help release the tension on paper and get it off your chest. or perhaps you could try physically releasing the anger by hitting a pillow in your room? also practicing techniques to better manage your anger in the moment could be helpful, such as pausing before taking any action, when in a conversation using "I" statements as they can help avoid conflict, and also grounding techniques such as counting to 100, focusing on your breathing or doing an activity.
what do you think? please let me know, and we can perhaps work some ways to help you manage your anger better.