Fear of intimacy as a man

Hello!

Im posting here because I cant find any like minded people online that share my fear of sex. For men, the fear always and only seems to be discussed through the lens of performance anxiety or size. For me I don’t really worry about that. It’s all emotional. My fear Is that the woman I share that experience with wont actually be in love with me. That she may have options or someone I don’t know about. Or that Id see her as my world and to her Id be a fling. The whole sex sells and hookup culture severely worsens all these fears for me. But I do see beautiful and loving relationships everywhere, this isn’t a post blaming anyone. I just find it really hard to believe it for myself. Are there any other men that have the same fears of intimacy? I can’t even comfortably talk about it really without getting panicked. Thanks!:)