First-Relationship Advice
What advice do you have for those who are trying to find someone to date for the very first time?
@jesusredeemedme2425
If you argue too soon, it's simply not worth the effort
Any incompatibility that will impact major questions like do you want kids, where do you want to live? How much time do you travel for work? What's their religion? Is it compatible with yours and if it differs, can you agree on which one your kiddos will grow up having? What are their goals and values? How is their previous relationship history? Do they think they need to be told you are exclusive to stop pursuing more then one person at a time? These should be found asap, as well as any other extra deal breakers you may have. If the romantic interest is having incompatible answers, it won't work.
Don't try to change the person or hope they will change, because they won't. At best you will fine tune on each other a little, but it's extremely unlikely any major change will be happening. So look at how they are now. This is the best they will ever be. Does that work for you?
Solve your mouses immediately, or asap. Mouses are resentment that will sooner or later happen over something. If it does, stop, call a mouse and try to resolve it. Ignoring it will not make it go away, just collect and rot under the bed
Look at how they behave in an argument or when they are angry. If they try to hurt you, bringing up unrelated things, old dirt or say something to hurt you, yeet. When arguing, it should be you two against the problem, not against each other. You should both be trying to find a fair enough deal, as in most cases, there is a very fair both of you getting satisfied option, you just need to find it. If there isn't, there usually is a clear who should sacrifice this time logical choice, leaving you with only a small percentage of actually harder to solve arguments.
When choosing a partner, ask yourself if there was an election and you knew absolutely nothing about what is happening and what's it about, could only ask your partner who knows what is happening who to vote for, would you be comfortable trusting their choice being in the best interests of you and your family or would you be mortified when finding out what your vote actually supported? If the answer is not trust, you are not compatible. As much as a lot of couples avoid discussing politics, it's important to have an understanding on where your partner stands on key issues. Marginally different stands often indicate different values, and there is no need to waste each others time. Small differences in opinions can be managed, but significantly different thinking is a major problem.
Don't go partner searching on the specific digital spaces that are famous of swiping. It's like casting a fishing net in the dumpster and getting disappointed there are only raccoons out there. Define what kind of person your ideal partner is and go spend time on places where the type of person is likely to be at
Before dating someone, become friends first and let the feelings evolve naturally if they are meant to be. Being friends first let's you get to know each other in a low pressure environment without expectations. (Best friends of your preferred gender are the best tbh, as your partner should be your best friend)
@jesusredeemedme2425
Hi there. I’d probably ask friends or family members if they know of anyone they think may be suitable, and is looking to date. If someone knows you and them, it could be a love match…who knows? 💕❤️
