Girlfriend traveling a lot this summer
Hi, I’m writing because my girlfriend is traveling all over this summer with one of her friends following a music group to multiple concerts. I’m very happy for her and I’m so proud of her for how hard she’s worked to get here, I’m just stressed about the time apart. I recently moved in with her and her family nearly a month or so ago and I’ve yet to find common ground with her family due to political views and being constantly misgendered by her father. I’m diagnosed autistic with adhd/bpd, I find processing change quickly to be hard as well as spontaneous things such as all of these trips at once. Don’t get me wrong, I’m so happy for her and I’m so proud she was able to make this happen, I don’t wish for her to not be able to do it. I just feel somewhat abandoned due to past trauma which isn’t her fault and also I just miss her because we’ve spent every day together becoming each other’s best friends. If anyone has advice on how to help quiet the anxiety or cope better than I am, I would greatly appreciate it because I want to be happy and celebrate this huge accomplishment by her side, my anxiety just makes me overthink. I’m not worried about cheating or anything like that, I just miss her and think this is going to be an incredibly stressful summer. I wish she could be here for my birthday or our anniversary and stuff like that too. (Let me preface this by saying these trips were planned well before we got together so it’s not like she had known nor can she refund her tickets/hotels/etc)
@persistentLemon2325
I can see where that'd be hard to deal with. In fact, it'd be hard for anyone to cope with, and your neurodivergence (non-standard mental functioning) must make it even more difficult. I was apart from my significant other for several months while in training for a job at a chemical plant. We usually, but not always talked daily. I think that helped. Maybe sharing daily experiences can help you feel a bit closer.
I think it helped that I was really busy with the training, which sometimes distracted me from the loneliness. Hopefully, you and her family can grow a bit closer despite the different beliefs. Other things that helped was finding distractions, which took the form of spending time with co-workers/trainees, reading, swimming and watching movies.
Let me know how you're coping.