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Husband of almost 5yrs completely blocks my calls after a conversation where he made an assumption that I lied

User Profile: Mgonzalez
Mgonzalez February 3rd

Hello all, I'm currently in a situation with my husband, where he has me blocked currently 4 days and counting. After he made a assumption that I lied about there being no hot water in my apartment ( we live separately but we're around each other until that day) I live in a complex where at times the water does go out but the storm we all pretty much dealt with caused a issue, this particular day I told him about the water no issues and later on still no hot water, I called him later that night now he's super upset cause no water, at which point he was really digging in the situation I'm gonna have a talk with the manager there ok no problem, hours on the phone I go check the water and it was getting lukewarm mind you I didn't check for hours but I will say the heating company was out that day working on it they fixed the problem and come to find out they forgot to light the pilot at which point the matinence manager came out to light it up,( this is what I'm told by neighbors also I have a photo of the heating company out that same day) needless to say but yup he said you had hot water all that time or at least that's what I was able to make out of it before he hung up on me and blocked me. Here we are to day and I'm kind of struggling with what one would call unresolved issues in respect to that, I cant get ahold of him at all, I find myself missing him I guess beside myself and nor in the best mood, what do you guys advise? How long is to long with being blocked? And my thoughts are really bothering me because I have no idea what to do in respect to this, I feel confused, lost and overall betrayed, I apologize for the long post

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User Profile: Alendriel
Alendriel February 3rd

@Mgonzalez 

Please excuse my grammar - English is not my first language. I just want to share what I found, and I hope it helps.

I hear the pain and confusion in your words. This situation is about much more than hot water. The feeling of being blocked, cut off, and not heard is a very deep wound. It triggers feelings of abandonment and betrayal that can feel overwhelming.

From an energetic perspective, when someone shuts down communication like this, it often means there are unresolved emotional charges and old programs running for both of you. For him, this event likely tapped into a deep-seated program about trust or betrayal from his past. His reaction is disproportionate because the event is just a trigger for a much older pain. For you, the feeling of being powerless and begging for connection is also an old pattern asking to be healed.

What you can do right now is focus on your own energy, because you cannot control his. This blocking creates a painful vacuum. Instead of trying to call into the silence, turn your attention inward. Ask yourself: where in my body do I feel this betrayal? The chest? The stomach? Breathe into that space with compassion. Your body is holding the shock.

To help you release this heavy, uncomfortable feeling, I have a free guided meditation linked in my profile called "Letting Go." You can try it; it will guide you to safely acknowledge and release these stuck emotions, so you can feel better and lighter, more grounded in yourself. This is a moment for radical self-care. Do not chase. Give both of you space. Your power right now is in calming your own nervous system.

I have more context about this approach in my profile. Sending you good energy.
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User Profile: Mgonzalez
Mgonzalez OP February 3rd

Thank you so much for your kind words and response I completely agree with you and it's very comforting knowing there are persons who can help you understand and grow, I'm still struggling but I will do exactly what you said and will look deeper into your guided meditation it's much appreciated when you are heard, thank you/gracias

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