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I am talking to this guy I like a lot and idk what i should do

User Profile: easyKite402
easyKite402 April 29th, 2025

Basically me and this guy have meet online, around 4 months ago. When I meet him he just got out of a long relationship where he felt trapped in. That's was fine of course since we were just talking and getting to know him Well time passes and we start flirting and stuff and I actually begin to like him. He always made it clear that he wasn't sure what he wanted since he has an aversion to relationships since his other romantic relationships didn't go well. But slowly we started to set more boundaries with each other that we were both on board about, like not flirting with other people, which kinda makes me fall for him and our relationship to grow. We do have are ups and downs but we always try to communicate with eachother

Well more times passes and he comes to visit me in person. I really enjoyed it and he says he did too. We did kinda couply stuff but I always told him if anything I was doing made him uncomfortable tell me. Before the trip ended he said seeing me for a while made him realize he was ready for a relationship and that he loved me

Well after he gets back home a few days later, he calls me and drops a bunch of bomb shells on me. That he still really wasn't ready for a relationship, that a lot of tje stuff i did made him uncomfortable, and some other small things I dont wanna get in to. He said some of the boundaries we made are too much.

Him telling me this wasn't the issue it was how he waited, if he told me stuff that I did on the trip made him comfortable atm or the day of I would of been OK with it. But him dumping all this stuff on me really made me overwhelmed and was not ok at all

I told him he needs to get therapy and get a venting app to work this stuff out and he did but I honestly don't know I can trust him anymore. He always said he bottles stuff up and he say he tries his hardest to not to with me but it just makes me feel like crap to know he was agreeing to make me happy. I dont even know if I would want to date him or not anymore either it is just too much and now i dont know if he would ask me out just to make me happy.

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User Profile: Heather225
Heather225 May 6th, 2025

@easyKite402

It's clear you care deeply about this relationship, and your feelings of uncertainty and hurt are valid. You've shown care by encouraging him to seek help, but remember to also prioritize your own well-being. Reflect on what you need from a partner and if this relationship aligns with that. Your happiness matters, too, so be gentle with yourself as you navigate this challenging time <3