Idk what to do at this point.
So me and my gf are in a long distance relationship and I know already that comes with its own difficulties. Ive never felt so safe as I have with her. My past is abit brutal with bad things always happening and not to mention poor decisions. She on the other hand grew up with a good home, good family, and all that. I have a huge problem with trust issues (even though shes never done anything to make me doubt her at all). We've together 11 months now and the beginning of the relationship was constant fights over these trust issues. She use to talk to me and work with me and help me. Things got good for a little while and now theyre bottoming out. I had to quit drinking, smoking, and take better care of myself. Not only for her but for me too, but between work and stress its really hard to stay motivated. She expects alot from me and ive made promises. The big problem we're having now is she wont talk. The moment shes a little aggravated or anything, she shuts down and wont talk to me. Ive even gone as far as crying because it does hurt and scares me. It dosent change anything though. So last night that happens and I turn to anger like ive done before and I decide to tell her since she wont talk ill go drink. So I did and in drinking I made things so much worse because I decided to threaten suicide (something ive never done). I can tell it hurt her. She hasn't spoke to me since and idk what to do. I sent a message this morning apologizing and explaining i take responsibility for it and I want to make the effort to get better. Which is why im here now. Any advice is really appreciated.
@faithfulBranch8341
It's never acceptable to threaten s..uicide or to drink to prove a point.
It's good you stopped drinking and smoking as long as it's about you.
Your gf can want the best for you but cannot have unrealistic expectations.
She cannot close down and refuse to talk.
That's not healthy in a relationship or fair.
Relationships are about respect, communication, and honesty.
Give yourself some space to process things and with a clear head, you both need to try and sit down and have a conversation where both of you get to be heard.
Relationships have to be balanced 💕💜
Thank you so much
@faithfulBranch8341
A pleasure 💜
@faithfulBranch8341
It's never acceptable to threaten s..uicide or to drink to prove a point.
It's good you stopped drinking and smoking as long as it's about you.
Your gf can want the best for you but cannot have unrealistic expectations.
She cannot close down and refuse to talk.
That's not healthy in a relationship or fair.
Relationships are about respect, communication, and honesty.
Give yourself some space to process things and with a clear head, you both need to try and sit down and have a conversation where both of you get to be heard.
Relationships have to be balanced 💕💜