I don't know if we should have broken up
Hey guys.
So I was in 3 years long distance relationship. We spend 3-6 months together at his place, then 3 months I spent on my own at my place. I couldn't get visa, so I couldn't stay for longer and he never tried to come. Our problems started last year but we were fighting for ourselves. Until now. Few weeks ago I felt... Tired. Disappointed. Started to avoid texting him a bit. I love him so much but I didn't know what to do. Probably he felt. So on Friday he called me. That he will say what we both think. That we should break up as this relationship is killing me. And first time... I didn't react. We talked for two hours. I was crying. We were joking. He told me I was the best thing in my life and that's why he will not reach out. It will be just more painful. I told him that I love him. He said he loves me. And... that's it. It has been three days and I am dying. I still love him. I feel like texting him. But on the other hand I would like him to fight. To miss me. Should I text first? It is not a competition after all.
@Magdamacie Sorry to hear that you're going through this. As we're here to help create a safe space for listening and sharing, we can't give advice on any situations we come across. However, for your sake, we suggest working it out by going through the community archives. I hope your situation gets better soon.
Take a time to breathe. Take your time to realize things more before going back to your love. You should think of yourself first, try to go an adventure with you only. I know It's hard to fight your feelings when you really miss someone but sweetheart you both are fighting off for each other! You will heal soon take time to clear your mind and when you feel ready, and unbothered then you should prolly go talk to him without the feeling of attachment.
Thank you! Unfortunately we made a mistake and talked yesterday. We both cried. Love each other. Miss each other. But he said he needs space and time. He needs to work on his life. He loves me more than anything but he just can't do it now. And before I missed him but felt ok. Now it is unbearable
