I don’t know what to do
Every time a person tells me something bad or offends me out of nowhere. I can't say anything, I can't defend myself and all I do is cry. I would like to solve this but I don't know how to do it :(
@Chiara20
well either suck it up or scream at the top of your lungs f off b. or just calmly agree. (sounds weird but all can work]
hi @Chiara20, i hope you’re feeling better. It sounds like when you receive a message that you feel is either bad or offensive, you feel defenseless so it makes you cry. So it sounds like you’re looking for advice on how to change this.
I wanted to share about our response to perceived threats are called fight or flight. You can Google it to learn more. This is a term that i learned from a social worker and for the most part, it’s not a bad thing because it’s one of the ways we protect ourselves. For me, i tend to go into either mode depending on the situation. I’ve worked on catching myself in the mode so I can work through in getting out of them. It’s still a work in progress, im working with my therapist on resetting my response system so it’s not misfiring on safe situations. I think what might be helpful is to work through this with a therapist to find out what’s the underlying issue. I hope you feel better soon!
@AnyoneThereItsMeMo
Hey can we talk
Hey @cyanField2471, sure we can talk, but there isn’t a member-to-member chat on this app so you’ll have to post it here or in a different post and tag me.