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I might be overacting but this is truly what I'm feeling right now.

I just recently learned that my partner had nearly or probably had sex with one of his close friend. Though it was from his past and it felt so heavy learning about it. The fact that it took him months before telling me this information. I don't have any problem with him being physically active in his past because before our relationship started I've already learned most of it. Basically even with that past I still learned how to love him. I accepted that version of him. It kinda sting knowing that he's been with women before (even though it's more on physical most of the time and not emotionl) but that's life and it's normal. It's his pass and I just learned to accept it slowly as I can. Also I accepted it a little better because I've known all of it even before I fall in love with him. Basically we were friends before we became lovers. But the recent information I learned caught me off guard especially how casually told me about it. This time it's different. We were in relationship when I found out. And the most awful thing is that the one girl he nearly get physical with and I think he did develop some feelings towards her at that time is one of her close friend. I feel awful, I hate feeling like this, I hate hating him. I hate feeling like this, I love him so much that it always hurts me when I hate him. Please help me I don't know what to do.

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Hi @JamsomniacKitty23 ✨

Thanks for sharing - He is with You now, he loves You now…why does it matter who was he with before? That is part of the past and it is gone - He chose You and he is with you… We don’t “own” the person, the person chooses to be with us and love us and accept us, the same way we do if we choose to be with them

Leave the past in the past and continue enjoying every day with him, continue creating memories and good times. Don’t compare yourself with previous girlfriends or friends - he is with you now, that is what matters now, in the present moment

Sending you lots of good vibes ✨