I need help
I have a bf , and he's okay , not great but okay, and I have this male friend and we've been like a talking stage ( ik this is wrong) , so he have gotten a gf and I found out tdy , I'm sure it wasn't more than a month since they've been together but I've been having this feeling in my hurt like envy and jealousy and I know I shouldn't be feeling this and I'm genuinely starting to hate everything and my mental it getting bad .
@politelemon377
I'm sorry it hurts 💚
But some distance might help, to allow him and you to focus on your own relationships 💛
It is easier now, before anyone gets hurt further 💛
So from what I’m getting, is that after your friend got his gf, you came to a realization that you possibly do have feelings for your friend even though you’re with your bf? Have you and your friend actually came to an agreement or talked about yours guys feelings for each other?
No not really we haven't talked about our feelings, I'm not sure if I have feelings for my friend maybe I'm more on the worried side that our friendship will change
@politelemon377
Well do you catch yourself thinking about him when you’re hanging out with your bf? I only ask because that’s what happened to me before and that’s how I know I felt something. The friendship will change and that’s probably because your friend’s gf is not going to be comfortable with her bf hanging out with another girl. Which okay that’s fair cuz we all would feel like that lol and if for some reason let’s just say the gf doesn’t like you, then she’ll definitely tell your friend’s not to talk to you.
I know EXACTLY how you feel. Before things escalate too much, search your feelings, visualize where you see yourself in a year, five years, and even ten years with each of these men. The one who has the longest standing in your mind is the one you should focus on - even if at all blows up in your face. You've got this - trust your gut!
