I wanna love
I have a gf, she loves me the most. And i love her the most too. But due to my inability to understand emotions and feel them, i am unable to understand her. I wanna love her but sometimes my anger issues affects her. I want to treat her the best and make her feel proud to have me
@bestTortoise181
It's good you love her.
And you want to be better.
And you are aware of this.
Communication is key and managing your issues and talking through what you both need, to feel loved, respected and supported in the relationship 💚🤗
@Amanda84
Thank you for your positive words. Responses like these makes me happy and relief. I am trying to be better and any advice would be appreciated.
@bestTortoise181
A pleasure 💚
It is so beautiful to see how much you want to cherish her and be the person she deserves. That desire alone shows how much heart you truly have, even if you find it hard to understand or express emotions sometimes.
Please remember that recognizing where we struggle is the first and most important step toward change. It’s okay to not have all the answers right now, but it’s so important to protect the love you both share. When you feel that anger rising or that 'numbness' coming on, sometimes just saying, 'I’m struggling to understand right now, but I want to try for us,' can be a huge comfort to her.
You have a kind goal, to make her proud. What is one small thing you’ve noticed that makes her feel truly seen by you?
It is so beautiful to see how much you want to cherish her and be the person she deserves. That desire alone shows how much heart you truly have, even if you find it hard to understand or express emotions sometimes.
Please remember that recognizing where we struggle is the first and most important step toward change. It’s okay to not have all the answers right now, but it’s so important to protect the love you both share. When you feel that anger rising or that 'numbness' coming on, sometimes just saying, 'I’m struggling to understand right now, but I want to try for us,' can be a huge comfort to her.
You have a kind goal, to make her proud. What is one small thing you’ve noticed that makes her feel truly seen by you?
With you saying you have trouble understanding emotions and have anger, sounds like you could be experiencing alexithymia. Are those new experiences for you, following an uncertain or hard time, or have you been like that since you were a child?
If you really wanna treat her best and make her feel proud you gotta put your anger down. Just remember men ego's end where they lost their love. So before anything happens you are one who can change yourself. Best of luck