I want to change
I (26 male) have made a bad mistake within my relationship and it has set us back pretty far. She tells me she feels numb and I feel disappointed in myself as well as just mad at myself. I want to change for the better but I would love to get some unbiased opinions and ideas for bettering myself.
Listening without defensiveness and acknowledging her feelings can help rebuild trust. Therapy, whether individual or couples counseling, can be a great way to work through the deeper issues and develop better communication tools. Above all, showing consistent effort, being patient, and respecting her need for space (if she asks for it) will demonstrate your commitment to change. Personal growth takes time, but by focusing on the present and doing the work to be better, you’re setting a solid foundation for the future.