Lost myself

I’ve been married for eight years, and I gave everything I had to this marriage. Through the stress, the pressure, the financial burdens, and the emotional damage, I still stayed and tried to fix things. But being abandoned without communication for months while still being expected to carry responsibilities alone has completely drained me mentally, emotionally, and financially.

At some point, I have to choose peace and self-respect. I can no longer keep sacrificing myself for people who walked away from me. I truly wanted us to work, but I can’t force someone to stay, communicate, or fight for the marriage with me.

I’m focusing now on rebuilding my life, my health, my stability, and becoming myself again. I have to let go of what’s destroying me.

I’m just learning my wife was an avoidant. I lost myself. Then I became an anxious attachment. Constantly trying to fix things. The more I tried to fix the more she pulled away. Now it’s over she’s picked up and left to another state and blames me for everything.