Lying
My boyfriend said he’s gonna meet a guy friend of his but instead he met with a girl who had a crush in him. He never told me that he met her but when i was going through his phone i saw some deleted selfies of them and some photoshoot of that girl he met that day. Then when i asked about him did you hang out with a girl in the previous days and he said “no” directly and when i asked can you swear it , he said that he swears. What should I do now?
@braveCircle6098
What do you feel would happen if you told him what you saw? How do you feel about continuing a relationship with him? It could be that the encounter was pretty innocent, but he didn't think you'd understand. Still, the question remains, to what extent can the relationship work in the absence of trust? Is restoring trust possible? Some partners' relationships survive, and trust is restored. I hope it works out for you, one way or another.
Girl, I wish I knew.
In my experience when you confront him, he will say he didn't tell you because you would overreact. Turning it to your issue .
Unfortunately, people are not emotionally mature. We have no idea what they are thinking. Was the meeting innocent and he didn't want drama?
Was he curious about an ex?
We'd like to think he'd have no reason to meet with her if he were happy in his relationship with you. And especially not lie about it .
I get you girl. I wish I knew the answer.
I have been told " pick your battles". When is it not ok to overlook?
Oh if only answers. Other than stay single and abstain.!
Think about your future. It is easy to get tunnel vision on what is happening in front of you and let it cycle.
I know because this was me and I married someone similar. Personal experience of these little scenarios of lying, cycling again and again, which eventually turned into an affair, resulting in divorce.
Be cautious. Don’t over-react. Analyze yourself and your goals. Know your worth. Him keeping any part of that day from you is deceit. Even if he did meet with a guy friend, he failed to tell you about the girl for some reason. If you already have a lack of trust in him by going through his phone, is this a good foundation for a healthy relationship?
Let him know how the situation makes you feel. Go from there. It’s important to feel safe to share your feelings in your relationship with your partner.
