My confusion
Hey ..I'm new here ..so if anyone could talk and reply...I will be so grateful... thankyou...
So I've been in a relationship when I was like 13years old ...I had to go through alot back then ...the first year when we both were together...it was all good...i was sooo crazy for him...but next year he was under study pressure....so he also lied like "i never loved you"... I am so sensitive...i thought it's true ...and thought he broke up with me...i moved on ..after crying for a whole month...
The next year passed away with me being single "thinking he didn't love me"...but in 2024 he said ..".I can't hide anymore...I do love you"... But I was moved on so I didn't care much ...but in 2025 starting.... I don't know why...i started getting feelings for him again....until last month we both got back into relationship...being happy and all...BUT my parents don't like me being with guys...i cannot love here ...and these past weeks...I have been keeping on having fights with him...bcs I feel like i wanna be alone....
Someone please help me with this: I feel like I'm forced to be in the relationship cause I text him only if he asks me to...he loves me sooo much ...but I feel like I don't ...my "i love you" words ...feels like just words ... without any emotions...
I've been feeling like ... I do not want to hurt him...wanna be alone...mind my own business...be single...be happy...when I tried asking him time for this ...he started crying telling me "you are leaving me...what did I do...what mistake did I do"...I feel struck...I don't hate him ...I just wanna be by myself...i never shared things with people... but I wanted to try therapy....please someone save me...from this confusion
@Harini2008
You are young and relationships can be confusing.
If you are not feeling it, and you need to be alone and single, you need to just tell him, honestly and stick to it.
The longer you leave it, the harder it gets.
It's not easy but you cannot force yourself to feel anything you don't.
Doesn't make you a bad person.
It will give you time and space to learn for the future what it is you want from a relationship 💜💖
Thankyou for your support.... thankyou so much ...
Actually I did tell him everything....a-z
But he keeps saying things like "I'm dead...You are pushing me away ...I can't leave you...do you love someone else....I'm making your mental health worse ....soon I will die and you can be happy...."..
It hurts when he says things like this ...ð¥º
@Harini2008
It hurts but you cannot let him emotionally blackmail you, he is responsible for his own happiness and mental health, not you 💖
Okay 👍...i will try again ...
Thankyou... I'm grateful
Actually... I've been thinking so long...
What to do . ..if my mindset is like this now ...but I'm the future it's different?...like ...what to do if I suddenly want him in the future?...I cannot be sitting and crying regretting right?...So ..what do I do. ..it's so confusing....not understanding whether I love him or not .... confused with wanting to let go...but also hold on...
@Harini2008 if things change, so can you. things dont have to be set in stone and if he doesn't feel the same then, thats okay.
@Harini2008
A pleasure 💜
Hey dear ❤️ whenever you feel you need to talk to someone feel free to reach out to me I'm here to listen you always 🫂
