Narcissism
why don't I get attracted to normal people? why do I only get attracted to narcissistic people ?
how can I fix that?
I know this is not right I don't know how to stop it though 😔
@oliveGrapefruit4875
Do you think you may in general like confident people? Sometimes there's a difference between a narcissistic person and a confident person. It's really hard to change personal preference but I'd say that attraction usually changes as we age!
@sunnyWriting4806
yeah , maybe it's about confidence , it's just that it always comes with pain for me 😞
@oliveGrapefruit4875
For sure and I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe stepping back a little bit and analyzing the attributes you're attracted to might help you handle this whole thing out. Wishing the best in all cases.
@oliveGrapefruit4875,
be careful with labeling others as being narcissistic.
For instance, if you have needs and it feels your needs or not being met doesn't make the other person narcissistic.
Phrases like that are used too often. Always ask, what can you do to improve a relationship, instead of wanting someone to do the work for you.
Express boundaries and needs. Mutual understanding takes time, effort, space and self reflection.
@dukeofdearham
I'm not saying that they were narcissistic as a random word , I've gone through everything from love bombing , ghosting , gaslighting , smashed self-esteem , arguments without any purpose or meaning or real reasons , abuse , shouting , cursing ,suspecting myself and my reality all the time , am I wrong? am I the reason of things not going well ? have I said that? etc.. hovering over and over , it's always about them , my talks doesn't matter unless it's about praising them , what they are , what they have , what they did bla bla blah, and they're never happy about it , I'm never enough for them , it always end up by cheating , it's not healthy i know , i just dont know how to make my mind not to give these people a chance