Narcissist mask dropped
I saw him for who he was. I had a mental breakdown, i messaged and threatened and fought and said awful things and begged him to care and apologize and try to comfort me. He told me to stop contacting him after 3 days of being ignored by him and then blocked me on everything. He told he doesnt care about me after i begged him to care. I dont even know if thats because he wanted to hurt me more because i was harsh or because he doesnt care or it was to teach me a lesson. Im just confused. How did i become the abusive one. Turns out hes engaged. He told me he loved me. And when i found out i broke down and then he blocks me. What kind of man does that. Does anyone know how to handle narcissists, is he really a narcissist or was i the one who pushed him away, im just confused and hurt and dont understand what happened.
@courteousMoon3163
I ain't really too sure about who is the one in the fault here. But I am leaning more on your boyfriends side. Since he was dating someone while you guys were together as a couple and then you found out yourself that he is engaged to her. I would be very upset if this would ever happen to me. I can understand that when you found out that you wanted to blow up his phone and that you threaten for him to confront you about this and he never did tell you why or talked about what happened. I am sorry that you are feeling confused and hurt.
honestly I think he “cared” while things were good, but once you found out it seems like it was over for him. Since he was engaged it seems like once you found out he had no choice but to leave the relationship since he was caught. He honesty might be cutting you off just to avoid losing the other women as well, since if she found out he could lose both of you.
you are definitely not the crazy or abusive one here, he obviously seems to lack morals. He seems like he is using both relationships or relationships in general to get attention for his ego, however once you found out bc you obviously had an issue with him cheating. He sensed he would no longer be able to obtain attention from you while maintaining the other women.
you definitely deserve better, I just went through something similar finding out my ex bf cheated on me the entire relationship. It feels empty without him, but a part of me knows his “love” and “care” for me were selfish, just like with the people he cheated with.
let me know if you ever want to chat!<3
