Need advice
So I have been in a very serious relationship in which I knew that we don't have a good level of understanding but still I thought I'll do my best to creat an understanding environment between us... we dated for 2 years but the 2 year was very hard for me. Every time he'll fight with me over small thing and block me and I used to beg him. He used to completely control me. And that I used to listen to him and lost my friends eventually. But he was caring and kind of loyal too. That was the only reason I was willing to move further in that relationship but now I am changed. Even if we fight, i miss him, i cry but I don't begg him to be with me anymore, I stopped fighting for us. That's when I realized I should breakup because neither of us would be happy in the future. And I did broke up with him. But he wants to be in contact with me what should I do? I blocked him so that whatever he does will not bother me but he wants to be in contact and have normal conversation like casual friends i guess. But talking to him bothers me as from within am not completely done with him apart of me will always love him. I don't know what should I do.
@rationalDrum9244,
I think deep down you know what's best for you to do.
Yes I do it's just hard to do. But I'll do it anyway.
@rationalDrum9244 Don´t do it. Exes are exes for a reason, and as long as you are around each other, you can´t heal and move on. If you split in good terms due to being incompatible i could understand. The thing is, you need to move on. You can´t heal your asthma if you keep being around cigarette smoke. The same way, you can´t really heal if you keep having your ex around. That´s something he needs to understand. Also, what he is doing seems like he hopes to get back together in the future. You can totally be civil with him when you run into each other, and tell him gently and calmly that you want to move on now and it is for your best interest to not keep talking to him if he tries to initiate a conversation. Be honest with yourself. Do you think seeing him will do you any good? Will it in some way help you heal? Or will it just keep you stuck unable to move on?
Am even not ready to move on i guess I just know that I can't have a happy life with him. I have to be strong to move out of this situation. Thanks for your words meant alot 😊
@rationalDrum9244 I promise it will get easier with time. Stick to your decision, cry it out if you need to, take care of yourself and you will see, things will get easier
I hope so. And I also promise to myself that I'll stick to my decision no matter what he thinks of me.
@rationalDrum9244 i believe in you, you got this! 🌻
@sadcat13, thank-you 😇😌