Need advice
I'm married to someone I suspect has bpd I myself have bpd anda trama bond and have been really struggling with insecurities, my anxiety, my spouse lately has been yelling,saying hurtful things and slamming things around knowing these are my main trigger causing me to become very emotional and after days of this I will switch and be loud as well mind you I have begged for him to stop. He then calls me Name saying it's me causing everything and saying he is leaving me how do I not then internalize and blame myself causing me to hate myself my life and my looks(things I fat and uly no one wants me))
Please I need advice and before anyone says leave him look up trauma bond and it's
@helpfulpineapple69
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I'm sorry you are going through so much!
It's a very difficult situation.
And I'm not going to pretend I know how difficult it is for you.
But I do want you to know, he has no justification in the world to shout, disrespect you or blame you for his actions.
Or to tell you that you are fat or ugly , or make you feel unwanted.
That's not true.
It's important that going forward, you find a safe space away when your husband is like this until he finds a way to start controlling his own behaviour, that's on him 💚
