Need a relationship advice

I met a guy in August we started having connections but chatted online for a month and I was ashamed and confused he wanted to come where I stayed i kept saying no he got mad,so he said I should come and sleep over too his place I said to him if we meet I’m comfortable in a public space but I didn’t want he said I will put his life in danger as he has lot of enemies but I had doubts because he sent me one of his pictures he was in a club but with me he didn’t want to meet public so things changed I never met him face to face or video call coz he didn’t like it but I noticed that the interaction in gone down so, a month and a week later he said he doesn’t have time for games I’m too playing not serious ,after we never spoke it’s been 4months,now I feel guilty I’m I wrong for not being sure of going to his place and for letting him not I’m not ready to have sex with him, he posted treats on his status that scared me saying I waisted him time saying all mean things about me ,during that time were I met him I was also dealing with my father passing but everytime I tried expressing how I feel he would post that so now I don’t know if I should send him a message saying I’m sorry if I waisted his time I’m confused and feeling guilty