Opposite gender bestfriend
Hello, would like some thoughts on partner having an opposite gender friend.
Where I stand on this is that it is absolutely okay. I too have some male friends .
However, I found out my partner is extremely close to his female friend:
They text daily at a frequency of every few minutes. They share every update
They want to meet up 2-3 times a week. I asked my boyfriend what do they do and he says either just hang out, catch up or do an activity (eg hike/ meditate)
She was never really friendly towards me or seemed curious about me. We did meet once aa my boyfriend wanted to introduce us but the entire time the conversation just flowed between the two of them. She never tried to create conversation with me to get to know who i am.
He says she's like a sister.
They go on trips together and will share a room sometimes a queen size bed. He says it’s purely for cost saving rather than getting separate rooms.
She knows my boyfriend and I play badminton together and thats how we met as well. We love playing just the 2 of us as well as with some friends. Recently she invited him to join her and her friends to play badminton… She did not invite me. The reason she gave was that her other friend is bringing a friend so there’s already 4 pax.
I feel really lost and upset but I dont know what to do. Am I too sensitive? Is this behavior acceptable? ( the daily texting etc)
Hmm, hard to say, it does seem like a lot of frequent contact, but I suppose at least he's being upfront about it.
My issue would be more with your partner, why isn't taking the time to include you more, not for every get-together but you are an important part of his life, shouldn't he want the two of you bonding a bit?
Address your concerns directly with him, if you're feeling left out or neglected or even confused.
I mean does she have a partner? What do they think? If so, maybe you could all do something together, dinner etc..
We went out once with her and her partner and i felt like an outsider. The 3 of them mainly spoke to each other. Her partner never really talked to me either. They also have their own group chat which im not inside. They know each other before i came into the picture. They’ve travelled together alot before. I’m just trying to be understanding but i am sometimes affected. I try not to overthink