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Relationship attachment styles

User Profile: decisiveTangerine5722
decisiveTangerine5722 July 26th, 2023

My boyfriend and I have polar opposites attachment styles, he has an avoidant attachment style and I have an anxious attachment style. We both want this relationship but can’t see each other everyday. Need help with finding a solution.

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User Profile: Barltik2065
Barltik2065 July 27th, 2023

@decisiveTangerine5722

So am I understanding correctly, you are ‘Anxious Attachment’ and he is ‘Avoidant Attachment’. Interesting.

Why I am asking is, my spouse and I of 20+ years are polar opposites also. But I have a philosophy from an old move ‘Mame’ where Auntie Mame (Rosalind Russell) states “Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!”
Meaning to me is that we each bring something to the table of life and most people don’t know to go to the table and eat. But I also like to add that ‘What I bring to a relationship is already there. What are YOU bringing to the table?” Do I want you to bring the same? Or do I want something that isn’t already there?

Help me with understanding “Need help with finding a solution” and tell me more about this relationship.