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Retroactive Jealously

User Profile: paddlepopboxers
paddlepopboxers September 12th, 2025

Hi All please help

So me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year know, on and off through school but l have always been really into him. Anyway I was in a different relationship about 2 years back and my best friend and my boyfriend (wernt dating at the time) started to snap, blah blah she briefly told me about it and I told her l wasn't interested and they ended up hooking up.

They both actively hid it from me the night it happened and then she told me about it a few days later. Obviously I shouldn't have cared and I told her I didn't want to know about it and her and my boyfriend decided to cut things off and just made it a one time thing. Anyway about a year later me and him got together (me and my ex broke up) and I have just been really struggling with the jealously. Me and my best friend kind of speak but it's been more common now but after we hang out I just feel like utter *** and jealous. My boyfriend is so amazing and doesn't deserve to know any of this and how I feel because I know he can't change it but it is eating at me and making me so unhappy.

I don’t struggle with the jealously, it is mainly his previous hookups and obvi the one with my friend

I’m so worried it will ruin our relationship because if it didn’t exist it would be PERFECT

any tips please thank you so much

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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 September 14th, 2025

@paddlepopboxers

🥺

Nice to meet you.

I'm really sorry you are struggling.

Ultimately, you are human and you dont like to think your bf was with your  est friend, doesn't make you a bad person.

But all of us have a past, other sexual partners, and we have to accept this part of our partner's past.

I know, it would be ideal to wave a magic wand and go back in time and make it that it never happened 😁

I so get that.

But he's with you.

He choose more than a one night thing with you.

Don't be the one to ruin your own happiness.

Keep having fun and letting your bf remember exactly why he chose you 🥰

I genuinely wish you both the best in the world!

You deserve it 💜💕

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User Profile: paddlepopboxers
paddlepopboxers OP September 14th, 2025

Thank you lots, it’s hard to get over but I have been practicing mindfulness and it’s working at the moment. I appreciate your kind words🩷🩷

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